All of our behaviours/beliefs or emotional responses are learnt. Each belief or behaviour (even the negative ones) is stored by our unconscious/subconscious, to be used or acted out automatically, as and when it thinks is the right time. It is strange to think of it in this way, but it is kind of like being on auto pilot. If we stopped to consciously analyse each and every event or decision throughout the day, we would probably never get out of our pyjamas. This is why it can be so difficult to change negative behaviours or beliefs. They become habitual. Every time you wonder why you just ‘did that thing you know is irrational, but still can’t stop doing’, or when you ‘froze while talking to that person you like’, or when you, ‘just can’t seem to get going on that project which is going to make you rich’, we can be sure, that at some point in the past, your unconscious/subconscious was taught something to which runs counter to your current beliefs or aspirations. To be fair to the unconscious, although it doesn’t sometimes feel like it, it is just trying to protect you, and keep you happy. The problem comes when it doesn’t update it’s responses to be in harmony with maybe your new environment, or new required behaviours to be in harmony with your values or identity as you grow.
The good news is that there is a variety of very effective modern tools that can help free-up those old responses and encourage new and more positive behaviours which are more focused on who you want to be.
- Timeline Reconciliation Therapy
- Gestalt Therapy
- Positive Psychology
- Parts Therapy
- NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming
- EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique
- EMI – Eye Movement Intigration
No two people hardly ever experience the same problem in the same way, which means that where a certain approach or technique might work on one person, it doesn’t mean it will work on the other. This is why we are trained in all the above disciplines of therapy – to make sure we are able to cater to each individual personally, in a way that is most effective to them.